Friendship Breakups

I'd thought I'd do something different today and share some tips on how to get over a friendship break up This happened to me recently and I don't know why we're not friends anymore but I've decided to try and get over it.

Friend break ups are the worst. In my view they're worst than relationship break ups because at the end of the day at least when a relationship ends, you have your friends there to stick by you. However when you lose a close friend it can feel really isolating.

Losing a friend you're super close to is tough especially when you feel like there's no valid reason for it happening. Sometimes you really do just drift apart whereas other times there is a valid reason for the two of you falling out. 

All this time I've been trying to pin point why me and my friend don't talk anymore but I just can't, and I'm not a physic so unless they tell me I'll never know. I also can't  help thinking about everything we did together throughout our years of friendship like did all those years of memories we made mean nothing to you? the gossips, the late night chats, the being there for each other, was it all meaningless?

A few years ago I would've overthought this situation so much but now as much as it pains me to say it I really couldn't care less. They want to ignore me fine so be it I'm not going to dish out second, third and fourth chances on someone who clearly doesn't think friendship is that important. I'd be lying if I said I don't miss them plus I've never understood how you can go from being super close to someone then acting like they don't exist.

Anyway here are my 5 tips for how to get over a friendship break up ....

Accept it

As hard as it may be the first thing you need to do is accept it. Accept the fact that you might never speak to this person again. Now you might be feeling pain but in a few months time you'll have forgotten all about them and be grateful for the lessons it taught you. 

Distract yourself

Rather than sitting and dwelling on the situation get out there and do stuff. Make some plans with your other friends, take up a new hobby or even just treat yourself to a pamper or shopping day. Keep yourself occupied and your mind busy so that you won't have time to think about them.

Don't stalk them on social media

If you're still following them on social media it can be really tempting to just look at their profiles to see what they're up to and when they last posted. My advice to you is don't, not only can this make you feel really shitty by remembering the times you had together, it is also a waste of your time and energy. If you don't want to unfriend them maybe mute them so you don't see their posts.

Reach out

If you're missing them that much and want them back in your life try reaching out to them. If you're unsure why the friendship ended send them a message asking what's going on (although don't always expect this to work believe me I've tried) It might not mean you guys become close again like you once were but at least it's a start and shows you're the bigger person. If your friendship ended on bad terms maybe don't do this straight away, give them time to cool off and reflect on the situation.

Learn from your mistakes

It's said that people come into our lives for a certain reason and to teach us things. I'd like to think that this is one of those times. They've come into your life, made memories with you then left. Think about what this has taught you and the type of person they are. Learn from it and move on with the knowledge and wisdom you now have to not make the same mistake again. 

Have any of you ever had a friendship break up?

How did you deal with it?